You already have one, or php wouldn't work at all.

what's the error?

@Matt Beckett

Fatal error: Allowed memory size of 67108864 bytes exhausted (tried to allocate 13824 bytes) in /home/content/.*/.*/html/engine/lib/filestore.php on line 141

try changinge your memory limit to 64M

what i ended up doing was .. i did a test.php

to she me where my php5.ini was

<?php phpinfo(); ?>

then i did a test2.php

<?php echo nl2br( file_get_contents('/web/conf/php5.ini'));?>

copied and paste it to a new file named php5.ini that i manually put in my root derictory

and then i erased all my system process which researched for php5.ini and i was able to

change the derictory

now, this doesn't change the problem but i changed

max_execution_time = 60

so if the user uploads a big file then he'll have to wait a minute ( this won't show the error ) it'll just give him a " Timed out"

in the end the user should know his file is to big because it either A : took to long to upload or

B: timied out

BTW before the user uploads an avatar 

i changed the en.php in language from "Upload avatar" to "Upload Avatar - File size must be less than 5mb"

Truth being that there is no restriction but the avatar won't upload

... from what i've heard that not a fix lol

any other ideas?

@$('CIM')

my htaccess has been at 64m - i think i can put it to 128m but it will still have the same problem.

did you change memory limit in your php.ini file? 

Change your memory limit in php.ini and restart the apache..

did that too.

i'll try it again when i go home.

64MB is plenty.

Have you tried disabling any plugins that might affect avatar uploading?

Do you see anything in your logs regarding a mod_fcgid? I always get that error on Ubuntu server when I first start uploading images over 100kb. Can be fixed by setting MaxRequestLen in vhost config

mod_fcgid

@Matt Beckett

i did that. I even disabled the default plugins like messages friends and such.

@Mark - nope.